Yes, that’s right. I think that thinking about scary things can be much worse than actually doing or living them. We all fear something. Some of us don’t like public speaking, others are afraid of driving a car, meeting new people,losing their job or not getting one. We all fear something and I don’t really understand why no-one is telling us that thoughts can be much worse that the situation itself.
We have the tendency to think about the worst case scenario. Let’s say that we are afraid of being criticized. We are ashamed of exposing our true self because for some reason we think that the environment won’t accept us, that maybe people will laugh at us or think that we are weird, stupid, that we lack talent or something else. This thought paralyzes us, makes us behave unnatural, we start to believe that we will never be able to show who we really are because the thought about being criticized and not accepted in society is not letting go.
Well, in this case two things may happen. First, we may finally decide to show the world who we really are and what we represent and receive a very positive feedback that we didn’t expect. We can get lots of compliments, encouraging words and love from our family, friends or maybe even strangers. In this case we feel a huge relief and we clearly see that we were completely wrong and that only the courage to do something about it helped fight the fear. Second scenario is that what we predicted comes true. People criticize us for what we’ve done or what we represent and there is not much of positive feedback. We feel very down and upset…but wait, really? Is it really so horrible? I mean, no-one wants to feel this way but is it really as bad as you expected it to be? Weren’t you way over reacting in your head? Maybe you didn’t even know that you have the power to deal with unpleasant situations so well? Or maybe you just realized that being criticized doesn’t really affect you that much because you finally are the person that you always wanted to be or you finally do things that you really love and care about?
Think about it, I’m sure that you’ve already been through many situation that can confirm this. How many times you imagined somethings as horrible and scary and in the end it turned out just fine or maybe even great?
Recently I’ve started to do things that I was a bit afraid of, things, that required to leave my comfort zone and confront some of my fears. And I have to say that for now I’m very surprised with the results and also with myself. I thought I will be way more stressed about some stuff and that they will be harder for me to achieve…but I was wrong and I’m very happy about that.
Maybe you should try that to? What scares you the most? Maybe it’s time for you too to confront your fears and realize, that many times thinking about scary things can be much worse than taking an action and doing them.